FAQWe tend to frequent our and other polygamous chat rooms and have email correspondence with a multitude of curious folks. We have noticed that they are often curious about the same things, so, to keep from having to type them a thousand times, we thought it prudent to collect those questions here. Are you mormon? We are not religious. Hence the name of the site, Secular Polygamy. Many find it surprising to find out that religious folks, especially mormons, do not have a monopoly on plural marriages. How many wives do you have? Two. Well, technically, we've not actually had the ceremony for the second, but we live as if we're married, talk as if we're married, fight as if we're married, etc. If it walks like a duck, and quacks like a duck, it's probably a duck. How does sex work? It works very similar to how everyone else has sex. I mean, I won't go into the details, but I'm sure you know pretty much how sex works. You get two people together and go from there. We're actually quite boring in that respect. While some may, none of us 'swing both ways' in our relationship. There is always only two of us present at any time that sexual intimacy is occurring. OK, but how do you decide who the husband sleeps with? For us, we follow a sleep schedule. The husband maintains a two-week schedule sleeping with one on M,T,W,Sa, and Su of week 1, then Th, Fr with the other, then the next week, it flips. The time is balanced. There is always a rotating weekend night for dates and such. And everyone gets a three-day stretch every other week. We're not sure what others with, possibly, more wives do, but our schedule seems to work for us. How did you get started in polygamy? Well, that's a rather long story. BlueRose and I actually started our journey into polygamy about 10 years ago. We were on a drive back to Ohio from Florida and started discussing the possible pros and cons of multiple-partner relationships. I think we knew then that, if we went down that path, we would want a committed relationship, not the 'free love' that polyamory tends to entail. By the way, for the polyamory people reading this, I mean no disrespect to your lifestyle, it just wasn't for us and I know there are many polyamorists that are just as committed as we are. The circles we tended to run in at the time were polyamorists and we therefore tended to go along with the sort of 'free love' attitude that entailed. I did go through a couple sexual partners in our experimentation with 'being poly' but that never felt right to us. It was too much of nothing for our taste. Our first 'real' partner was actually quite successful in the long run. She did not last, but we did get a glimpse of what the marital relationship would be like even though we didn't call it polygamy at the time. She moved in with us, we called her 'wife', etc. But we were all too 'young' in the lifestyle to really be prepared for it, so it fell apart. She is a great friend of the family now. After that, we reverted back to a more polyamorous attitude to short-lived and rather detached relationships. That still didn't feel right. We then met yurtgirl. We both thought that this was going to end up another of those passing relationships at first, I believe, but that turned out to not be the case. When we figured out that the relationship she wanted was what we were looking for to begin with as well, it all just clicked into place. Then, about a year into our relationship, we finally came to calling our chosen lifestyle and our current relationship what it really is .. polygamy. We were confused at first because we thought, as many do, that the mormons had a monopoly on polygamy. Come to find out, though, that is not the case. There is a huge contingent of secular polygamists that practice the lifestyle for many, very practical, reasons. Keywords: |